First and foremost you need to determine what is frightening your child. Have they had a bad experience, have you unintentionally scared them (eg saying things like “don’t ever go near water you’ll drown”)?
One of the most common reasons for children to become scared is lack of control. For a child to be in control in the water they need shallow water. They need to be able to either sit on a ledge or stand up on the bottom of the pool by themselves. When they are doing this they are in control.
If you are holding your child in deep water they are not in control you are. Therefore playing in a pool that is shallow or on a ledge is essential for the frightened beginner.
Once they have built up their confidence in the shallow you can gradually introduce them to the deeper water. This can be done through reassuring your child that you are there with them and through setting small tasks for your child to accomplish. For example letting them play on the ledge
and then saying lets go and touch the lane rope (out in the deep) and then we’ll come straight back and play on the ledge. Slowly but surely your child will build confidence.
Remember if your child is frightened go very slowly all it takes is patience and time with frightened children. |